This is an interesting article on getting the most out of your Rhode Island Wedding DJ. I can’t lie, much of it is offensive but unfortunately, many Rhode Island Wedding DJs need a Bride or Groom to be this “direct”. This is true for most of the younger, less experienced Wedding DJs that think being able to mix and dress a certain way makes the a good Rhode Island Wedding DJ. We have all been to weddings where the Rhode Island Wedding DJ just could not find a way to let the wedding be amazing, too busy being the spotlight. An exceptional Rhode Island Wedding DJ knows how to get out of the way and make certain all the shine on The Bride and Groom. This takes years of experience and mistakes before gaining enough humility and maturity. Let me know what you think about Sandy Malone’s blog post from The Huffington Post.
5 Tips For Getting The Most Out Of Your Wedding DJ
Posted: 02/08/2013 8:10 pm
Depending on where you come from, the things you take into consideration when choosing the music for your wedding are dramatically different. Back when I got married, I would NEVER have used a WeddingDJ in a million years, having coming from the school of thought that a Wedding DJ is a loud obnoxious creature who incites your guests to do dances you would prefer never be a part of your biggest day (Macarena, ChaCha, Slide, YMCA… I could go on forever). While my guests had fun dancing to the bands I selected both in Vieques and Washington, DC, now that I know more, I certainly wonder if we might have had a much, much better time if we’d had a good Wedding DJ with a good playlist instead.
With five-plus years of wedding planning experience, I’m here to tell you that not all Wedding DJs are created equal, and the good ones are worth their weight in gold. But even if you don’t necessarily have a whole bunch of DJ options for your wedding (the venue provides it or you’re getting married on an island that only has a couple of choices), you can structure your wedding playlist in a way that makes your wedding flow seamlessly even if the guy running the system is dumber than a box of rocks.
Here are some tips to help you set things up so that you can relax and enjoy the music you want to hear on your big day!
1) Establish up front that you are the CLIENT and you are in charge. Let him know if you don’t like a talker. Tell him if he has absolutely no room for independent judgment. If you don’t want to hear a single song that isn’t on your personal playlist, let him know. Lay out the ground rules and don’t be afraid to be a little bit aggressive and put it writing, asking him to acknowledge your requests. Many Wedding DJs prefer you be upfront and direct. Just don’t be rude about it. There’s a way to be demanding without being Bridezilla. Be a little nicer if he’s your only option at the venue.
2) Be very specific about your playlist and, if he doesn’t give you a good form to work with, create your own and include the following categories:
– Prelude music
– Music for seating the mothers
– Music for the bridesmaids’ processional
– Music for the bride’s processional
– Recessional music
– Cocktail music pre-entrance
– Entrance song
– First dance song
– Daddy/daughter dance song
– Mother/son dance song
– Cocktail music post-entrance
– Dinner music
– Cake cutting song
– Bouquet/garter toss songs
– Last dance
3) Decide whether you’re going to let the Wedding DJ take requests or not, and make sure you’re clear on the system with the Wedding DJ. If you’d prefer he not take requests, you can ask him to tell people that he doesn’t have the music being requested up to a certain point. If somebody gets aggressive, he might have to explain that the bride and groom have requested no spontaneous requests.
4) Be VERY SPECIFIC about your “Do Not Play” list. Those are the songs you really, really don’t want to hear at your wedding. You never know what your friends may request, and you’re better off making sure the Wedding DJ knows at the outset exactly how you feel about that. Trust me, “We are Family” can be a very awkward music selection in many groups.
5) Get your playlist to your Wedding DJ as early as possible. Every Wedding DJ has a different system, and many of them have to pull your playlist from their master systems, especially if you’re getting married somewhere like the tropics where the Wedding DJs might not have the most current systems. Some of them need time to make sure they have all your music ready in time for your wedding. At the very latest, have all song selections to your music master no less than 30 days prior to your wedding date. A full 90 days is even better.
If you’re not working with a wedding planner, or you don’t trust the recommendations of the venue’s banquet manager, do your own homework and research and see what other brides who got married in your area had to say about their own Wedding DJs. Angry and dissatisfied brides blog…fairly or not. But you’ll be able to tell who sounds like a bitter crazy person and who had a legitimately bad experience. Hopefully, you can learn something from their bad experiences rather than repeating them yourself.
Until next time, happy wedding planning from Weddings in Vieques and Weddings in Culebra!
Here are other posts that may be helpful to you Top 50 DJ Wedding Last Dance Songs, How To Hire The Best Wedding DJ, Popular Garter Toss Songs, Wedding DJ Father-Daughter Dance Songs, Wedding DJ Mother Son Dance Songs, Top 50 Wedding Cake Cutting Songs, Popular Bridal Party Introduction Songs for Wedding DJs and Popular Bouquet Toss Songs.
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